- Let the cat sniff you before you pet him/her, so he/she can become comfortable with you. Extend a hand or finger, and allow the cat a chance to touch its nose to your finger(s). If it shows no interest in your hand, or just stares at it suspiciously, reconsider your intention to pet it. Maybe try some other time when the cat may be in a better mood. Some cats just aren't friendly. However, if the cat sniffs your hand and then rubs its chin or the side of its head against it, or brushes the side of its body on you, chances are he/she is open to being petted.
- Pet his/her head lightly with your fingers. Focus on the area between or behind the ears. Use the pads of your fingers and apply gentle pressure. While some cats may like to be scratched, it's not a good idea to try it when you're not familiar with cats in general. You might scratch too hard or too fast. Some cats will get fussy if you scratch them in a way they're not used to. It's very hard, however, to go wrong with petting with your fingers. The only other thing to remember is to go from front to back only.
- While some cats thoroughly enjoy being petted under the chin, others get a little fussy when strangers try.
- Run the palm of your hand smoothly from the neck and along the back, all the way until you get to the tail, then begin again. Apply gentle pressure and make it a continuous, slow motion. Don't touch the tail, or move your hand along to the side. If the cat likes what you're doing, it'll arch its back to add more pressure to your hand. When you bring your hand back to where you started, the cat may rub its forehead firmly against your hand to encourage you to do it again. If the cat puts its ears back or cowers away from your hand, or just walks away, stop petting it.
- Keep your petting from the head to the tail, and don't switch directions. Don't pat, either. Some cats enjoy it, but some don't, and if you're not used to being around cats, you're better off not experimenting unless you want to risk getting bitten or scratched.
- You can scratch gently as your bring your hand down along the cat's back, but don't stop at one spot and scratch there. Keep your hand moving. There are cats that like getting scratched right by the tail, but some have a habit of suddenly snapping their teeth at your hand when they've had enough.
- Stay away from the tummy. When cats are relaxed, they might roll onto their back. Don't always take this as an invitation to rub their tummy, as many cats don't like that at all. Some cats do like it, but they interpret it as an invitation to play. They'll wrap their claws around your hand, bite it, and scratch at it vigorously with their back paws. This is not always an attack; it's how some cats "wrestle". It's not something you ever want to try, though, if you're not comfortable with cats... or you don't want to risk getting your skin bitten of scratched.
Tips
- Some cats meow when they want you to stop, and some meow when they want you to pet harder. Generally, it's a good idea to stop, just in case.
- Purring is not always an indication that a cat is happy, so don't make the mistake of thinking that a purring cat will not snap or bite. Many believe purring to be an indication that a cat is communicating "pay attention to this" and it might be because the cat is happy, but it may also indicate that the cat is annoyed.
Warnings
- if you are wounded due to a serious bite or scratch, wash the affected area thoroughly with an antibacterial soap and apply an antiseptic such as Bacitracin, then seek medical assistance. Deep puncture wounds need medical attention because of the risk of serious infection.
- Children should be closely supervised when petting a cat. They can easily agitate it, causing the cat to bite or scratch. Cats that are friendly to adults are not always friendly to children. Be especially careful that children do not get their face too close a cat.